Dac\u0103 vrei s\u0103 schimbi via\u021ba unui om, uneori este suficient s\u0103-i schimbi percep\u021bia. O idee diferit\u0103 poate fi de ajuns, dac\u0103 \u00eent\u00e2lne\u0219te p\u0103m\u00e2ntul fertil \u00een care s\u0103 dospeasc\u0103 \u00een timp. Restul \u0219i-l face omul singur. Dar ca s\u0103 po\u021bi vedea dincolo de c\u0103ptu\u0219eala social\u0103 \u0219i psihologic\u0103 a unui suflet, ca s\u0103 \u00een\u021belegi ce optic\u0103 ar avea nevoie s\u0103 fie ajustat\u0103, \u00ee\u021bi trebuie o sensibilitate pentru nuan\u021be \u0219i un sim\u021b al m\u0103surii capabil s\u0103 c\u00e2nt\u0103reasc\u0103 necuvintele \u0219i nevoia din spatele lor. Omul nu vrea s\u0103 se lase v\u0103zut dec\u00e2t prin pardesiurile sale cele mai scumpe. \u00ce\u0219i scoate din \u0219ifonier mecanismele cele mai fine de ap\u0103rare (umorul, ra\u021bionalizarea, evitarea, uneori furia sau toleran\u021ba dus\u0103 p\u00e2n\u0103 la anularea de sine) tocmai \u00een zilele \u00een care cineva ajunge s\u0103-l vad\u0103 cu adev\u0103rat \u0219i \u00eel dezgole\u0219te.<\/p>\n
Atunci apar g\u00e2ndurile: \u201eMi-e ru\u0219ine\u201d, \u201eNu \u00ee\u021bi spun\u201d, \u201eM\u0103 ascund\u201d. C\u00e2nd, de fapt, omul ar avea nevoie s\u0103 poat\u0103 spune simplu: \u201eM\u0103 doare\u201d, \u201eNu mai pot singur\u201d, \u201eAm gre\u0219it \u0219i nu \u0219tiu ce s\u0103 fac\u201d, \u201eMi-e team\u0103 s\u0103 nu par slab, cople\u0219it, la\u0219 sau mic\u201d. Din acel loc interior, omul te poate \u00eempinge departe prin sarcasm, r\u0103ceal\u0103, explica\u021bii nesf\u00e2r\u0219ite sau jigniri, numai s\u0103 nu vezi c\u00e2t de mult sufer\u0103 \u0219i c\u00e2t\u0103 nevoie are de (Sine) tine. De parc\u0103 exteriorul ar trebui s\u0103 compenseze ceea ce se pr\u0103bu\u0219e\u0219te \u00een\u0103untru. De parc\u0103 omul ar trebui s\u0103 poarte cele mai bune haine (ap\u0103r\u0103rile cele mai sofisticate) exact \u00een ziua \u00een care r\u0103m\u00e2ne gol.<\/p>\n
\u00cen terapie, aceste ap\u0103r\u0103ri pot fi observate f\u0103r\u0103 ru\u0219inare \u0219i \u00een\u021belese \u00een contextul \u00een care s-au format. Scopul nu este s\u0103 i le smulgem omului, ci s\u0103-l ajut\u0103m s\u0103 descopere c\u00e2nd \u00eel protejeaz\u0103 \u0219i c\u00e2nd \u00eel \u021bin departe de rela\u021bii, de libertate \u0219i de propria via\u021b\u0103.<\/p>\n
Pentru o or\u0103 sau o zi de curaj, pentru o zi tr\u0103it\u0103 cu inima cusut\u0103 pe afar\u0103, pentru c\u00e2teva minute de sinceritate este nevoie de antrenament asiduu. Uneori, de c\u00e2teva cercuri solare \u00een jurul P\u0103m\u00e2ntului. Ca \u0219i cum sufletul ar trebui s\u0103-\u0219i dea t\u00e2rcoale ani la r\u00e2nd \u00eenainte de a putea face un pas lateral, \u00een afara emisferei trasate anterior.<\/p>\n
Ce act lent \u0219i greu este transformarea.<\/p>\n
Sunt \u0219edin\u021be de terapie \u00een care inima at\u00e2rn\u0103 at\u00e2t de greu \u00een piept, \u00eenc\u00e2t \u00eel \u021bine pe om legat de loc, asemenea ghiulelelor prinse de picioarele prizonierilor, care \u00eei \u021bineau aproape de celule sau de cur\u021bile interioare ale penitenciarelor. Fiin\u021ba ar vrea s\u0103 alerge liber sau m\u0103car s\u0103 se ridice \u0219i s\u0103 mearg\u0103 \u00eenainte, dar nu poate atunci. Nu se poate, din cauza greut\u0103\u021bii aceleia ap\u0103s\u0103toare, \u00eenchise undeva cu cheia.<\/p>\n
Unele \u0219edin\u021be pot p\u0103rea ore \u00een care nu se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 nimic…cel pu\u021bin nu la suprafa\u021b\u0103. \u00cen t\u0103cere, \u00eens\u0103, omul poate \u00eencerca pentru prima dat\u0103 s\u0103 r\u0103m\u00e2n\u0103 l\u00e2ng\u0103 o emo\u021bie de care a fugit o via\u021b\u0103 \u00eentreag\u0103 sau doar se plimb\u0103 prin povesti s\u0103 vad\u0103 dac\u0103 poate nu te prinzi c\u0103 ceva, undeva e greu. Iar alte \u0219edin\u021be se pot sim\u021bi ca o corabie care \u00eenainteaz\u0103 lin pe ap\u0103 dup\u0103 ce a str\u0103b\u0103tut valurile cele mai abrupte \u0219i a supravie\u021buit c\u00e2torva furtuni \u00een larg. Omul respir\u0103 din nou, nu mai simte \u00eencordarea adunat\u0103 \u00een bra\u021be, \u00een spate, \u00een umeri, \u00een piept \u0219i chiar \u00een cuvinte. Se poate bucura, revine cheful de sine dup\u0103 at\u00e2ta timp petrecut \u00eencerc\u00e2nd doar s\u0103 nu se scufunde.<\/p>\n
Din acest loc, poate cel mai privilegiat scaun din sala cinematografiei existen\u021biale, se v\u0103d uneori cel mai limpede efectele condi\u021bion\u0103rilor sociale, parentale \u0219i rela\u021bionale prin care trece fiecare suflet pe acest p\u0103m\u00e2nt \u00eenainte s\u0103-\u0219i aduc\u0103 aminte cine este. \u0218i, uneori, atunci c\u00e2nd omul uit\u0103 treaba terapeutului nu este s\u0103-i spun\u0103 cine ar trebui s\u0103 devin\u0103 ci s\u0103-l ajute s\u0103 recunoasc\u0103 cine a fost \u00eenainte ca lumea s\u0103-i explice cine are voie s\u0103 fie \u0219i s\u0103 descopere cine mai poate deveni.<\/p>\n
S\u0103-l ajute s\u0103 se priveasc\u0103 f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 se striveasc\u0103. S\u0103 nu distrug\u0103, prin grab\u0103, ru\u0219ine sau diagnostic, ceea ce se afl\u0103 \u00eenc\u0103 \u00een devenire.<\/p>\n
Poate c\u0103 terapia rela\u021bional\u0103 (sau dialogul sincer dintre dou\u0103 inimi) p\u0103streaz\u0103 ceva din \u00eendemnul lui Lucian Blaga.<\/p>\n
\u201eEu nu strivesc corola de minuni a lumii
\n\u0219i nu ucid
\ncu mintea tainele, ce le-nt\u00e2lnesc
\n\u00een calea mea
\n\u00een flori, \u00een ochi, pe buze ori morminte.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u00cen terapie, poate c\u0103 \u00eenv\u0103\u021b\u0103m tocmai acest lucru: cum s\u0103 nu mai strivim tainele din ceilal\u021bi \u0219i implicit nici pe cele din noi.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Dac\u0103 vrei s\u0103 schimbi via\u021ba unui om, uneori este suficient s\u0103-i schimbi percep\u021bia. O idee diferit\u0103 poate fi de ajuns, dac\u0103 \u00eent\u00e2lne\u0219te p\u0103m\u00e2ntul fertil \u00een care s\u0103 dospeasc\u0103 \u00een timp. Restul \u0219i-l face omul singur. Dar ca s\u0103 po\u021bi vedea dincolo de c\u0103ptu\u0219eala social\u0103 \u0219i psihologic\u0103 a unui suflet, ca s\u0103 \u00een\u021belegi ce optic\u0103 ar […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":733,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"ocean_post_layout":"","ocean_both_sidebars_style":"","ocean_both_sidebars_content_width":0,"ocean_both_sidebars_sidebars_width":0,"ocean_sidebar":"0","ocean_second_sidebar":"0","ocean_disable_margins":"enable","ocean_add_body_class":"","ocean_shortcode_before_top_bar":"","ocean_shortcode_after_top_bar":"","ocean_shortcode_before_header":"","ocean_shortcode_after_header":"","ocean_has_shortcode":"","ocean_shortcode_after_title":"","ocean_shortcode_before_footer_widgets":"","ocean_shortcode_after_footer_widgets":"","ocean_shortcode_before_footer_bottom":"","ocean_shortcode_after_footer_bottom":"","ocean_display_top_bar":"default","ocean_display_header":"default","ocean_header_style":"","ocean_center_header_left_menu":"0","ocean_custom_header_template":"0","ocean_custom_logo":0,"ocean_custom_retina_logo":0,"ocean_custom_logo_max_width":0,"ocean_custom_logo_tablet_max_width":0,"ocean_custom_logo_mobile_max_width":0,"ocean_custom_logo_max_height":0,"ocean_custom_logo_tablet_max_height":0,"ocean_custom_logo_mobile_max_height":0,"ocean_header_custom_menu":"0","ocean_menu_typo_font_family":"0","ocean_menu_typo_font_subset":"","ocean_menu_typo_font_size":0,"ocean_menu_typo_font_size_tablet":0,"ocean_menu_typo_font_size_mobile":0,"ocean_menu_typo_font_size_unit":"px","ocean_menu_typo_font_weight":"","ocean_menu_typo_font_weight_tablet":"","ocean_menu_typo_font_weight_mobile":"","ocean_menu_typo_transform":"","ocean_menu_typo_transform_tablet":"","ocean_menu_typo_transform_mobile":"","ocean_menu_typo_line_height":0,"ocean_menu_typo_line_height_tablet":0,"ocean_menu_typo_line_height_mobile":0,"ocean_menu_typo_line_height_unit":"","ocean_menu_typo_spacing":0,"ocean_menu_typo_spacing_tablet":0,"ocean_menu_typo_spacing_mobile":0,"ocean_menu_typo_spacing_unit":"","ocean_menu_link_color":"","ocean_menu_link_color_hover":"","ocean_menu_link_color_active":"","ocean_menu_link_background":"","ocean_menu_link_hover_background":"","ocean_menu_link_active_background":"","ocean_menu_social_links_bg":"","ocean_menu_social_hover_links_bg":"","ocean_menu_social_links_color":"","ocean_menu_social_hover_links_color":"","ocean_disable_title":"default","ocean_disable_heading":"default","ocean_post_title":"","ocean_post_subheading":"","ocean_post_title_style":"","ocean_post_title_background_color":"","ocean_post_title_background":0,"ocean_post_title_bg_image_position":"","ocean_post_title_bg_image_attachment":"","ocean_post_title_bg_image_repeat":"","ocean_post_title_bg_image_size":"","ocean_post_title_height":0,"ocean_post_title_bg_overlay":0.5,"ocean_post_title_bg_overlay_color":"","ocean_disable_breadcrumbs":"default","ocean_breadcrumbs_color":"","ocean_breadcrumbs_separator_color":"","ocean_breadcrumbs_links_color":"","ocean_breadcrumbs_links_hover_color":"","ocean_display_footer_widgets":"default","ocean_display_footer_bottom":"default","ocean_custom_footer_template":"0","ocean_post_oembed":"","ocean_post_self_hosted_media":"","ocean_post_video_embed":"","ocean_link_format":"","ocean_link_format_target":"self","ocean_quote_format":"","ocean_quote_format_link":"post","ocean_gallery_link_images":"on","ocean_gallery_id":[],"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-732","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-uncategorized","entry","has-media"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/ioana-dragomir.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/732","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/ioana-dragomir.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/ioana-dragomir.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ioana-dragomir.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ioana-dragomir.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=732"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/ioana-dragomir.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/732\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":736,"href":"https:\/\/ioana-dragomir.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/732\/revisions\/736"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ioana-dragomir.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/733"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/ioana-dragomir.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=732"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ioana-dragomir.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=732"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ioana-dragomir.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=732"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}